Now clearly we all like the idea of being happy, and probably have a clear image of what it looks like.... clear skies, sunshine, beaming faces.
When clients tell me they want to be happier, the first thing I ask them is to tell me what that looks or feels like. They describe feeling more comfortable saying what they need, less self-conscious, more relaxed or less jealous. Rarely do they describe wanting to walk around grinning all day in the sunshine, which is good, as it's unattainable. So why is it that we are so intent on finding 'happiness' rather than inner-peace, contentment or a quiet mind? With so many images and stories of happiness assaulting the senses through social media, is it really any wonder?
In truth, happiness is a human construct and we're not designed to be happy, or even content. We're designed primarily to survive and reproduce, like every other creature in the natural world. Positive and negative affects do reside in the brain, but sustained happiness has no biological basis. Despite many advancements in brain functionality and development over the years, happiness remains a mere construct with no neurological basis. In fact a state of contentment is discouraged by nature because it would lower our guard against possible threats to our survival. Talk about being kept on our toes!!
Search for fulfilment, confidence and self awareness.
Strive for moments of joy, meaningful connections and peace.
Make that your Happy :-).
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