Less Not More - the power in letting go.
responsibilities
I promised a mini series of blogs on the subject of “letting go”, as it’s increasingly apparent that many of us are pretty good at holding onto things, people and beliefs that simply don’t serve us.
In fact, I’d go further and say, we hold on to too many things that can actually harm us.
The first subject we’ll explore here is “Responsibilities”.
I know, I know, we all seem to have multiple roles in this world, plus, complicated lives, complex family and friendship relationships, and perhaps a partner and/or children in the mix.
Sooo many responsibilities!
Or at least that’s how it can feel.
But let me ask you….when was the last time you genuinely challenged yourself to consider the things you’ve been worrying about?
Yep, actually questioned whether your focus is on things that genuinely sit in your scope of responsibility…Or if your mental energy is going into things that relate to other people.
Their choices
Their decisions
Their feelings
Don’t get me wrong, we don’t live in isolation. Of course we care about those around us. However, it’s important we don’t try to carry the weight of other people’s lives.
It can be especially challenging if others within your social or work sphere seem to
~ handle things in a way that you find uncomfortable
~ express very different opinions than yours
~ make decisions that you would prefer them not to
~ are sad, anxious or overwhelmed
Yes, it’s uncomfortable when we have different thoughts, feelings, responses, attitudes and actions than our nearest and dearest, but, we are all individuals, and it can be truly liberating to let go and just let others be themselves.
~ Meet them where they are at
~ Accept their way is their way
~ Recognise that different is ok
Most importantly, recognise its not our responsibility to make some else feel, act or be better. In fact, (spoiler alert!)…. it’s not even our right!
We can offer support, opinion, a shoulder perhaps. BUT, it’s good to know your boundaries.
So, just try to be aware of whether some of the things you’ve been treating as your responsibility, could perhaps be just popped down, let go of somehow.
Just a thought.
See you for the next episode, next week.
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